Conflict can be healthy. Conflict that disrupts our state of mind is … well … disturbing. What about internal conflicts? Can you relate to any of these:
I want to be thin. I love cup cakes, just one more
I want to spend more time with family. I need to make more money.
I want to rest more. I need to have a clean and organized home.
These conflicts are created internally because we want two things. This course can help resolve some of those conflicts.
1. Learn how to be honest. For instance say, what I really want is to be able to eat whatever I want and also to be thin. Go ahead laugh and set yourself free. Isn’t that what you really want! This makes more sense to our brain.
2. Accept yourself. Right now I am eating a cupcake. I must want this cupcake more than I want to work to be thin. I keep hoping this cupcake will make me thin. These are the wishes of a child. I can see that now. I’m ready to grow up emotionally. I accept that if I want to be thin, then I have to work to get there.
3. Let go of the guilt. The past no longer exists. I did what I did and for what purpose does guilt serve. If I am going to eat it, then why not give myself permission to enjoy it. I am ready to grow emotionally and next time I will take 3 minutes before I indulge by going over the above exercises in my mind.
4. Practice positive affirmations. I will change when I am ready. Then start to train your brain. I want to grow emotionally. I want to empower myself by recognizing that I make these choices and I can choose differently. I am a remarkable creative being capable of anything I desire. Say this every bite you take, every time you think of food, every time you feel guilty, every time you have a negative thought about your appearance.
5. Be specific. My goal is to work out x times per week, write down everything I eat, take x number of nutrition classes, find one person that reached their goal and ask how they did it, spend x minutes per week exploring easy recipes, spend x minutes per day reading health books, sign up x blogs that will email tips and keep me motivated just to name a few things.
Without clear rules and clear goals, we will drift right back into amnesia.
If you read this list and thought oh that’s too overwhelming who has time to do all of that. The answer can be I have time to do all of this. I am willing to give up tv. I am willing to give up the time I sit depressed over my weight. I can do this because I want to be thin and being thin takes effort. I can do this because I am a remarkable creative being that can accomplish anything I set my mind to. This takes us back to #4 which is by far the most powerful tool in our toolbox.
6. Build Support. Find friends that will walk with you, meet you at the gym, join weight watchers with you, sign up on line for some free accountability. It is proven that buddy systems work. Think about his
If we could have done it by ourselves then we would have already done it!
We need help.
Are you stuck in conflict? Have you lost weight? Do you have tools that help you? Need help? Maybe someone today will comment and we can create a buddy system right now!