Monthly Archives: August 2013

What is Humility?

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Humility is that nebulous word once used to describe self it has already been lost.

Perhaps the best definition is a lack of pride; to lack pride or arrogance. The word sounds so nice that our ego craftily misuses it; “May she humbly suggest”. Is this statement not really a prideful attempt at control? 

HUMILITY should be a verb because it’s our actions that reflect our intent or state.  

I heard someone say they were in line and had to deal with a dismissive Walmart clerk. Shocking yes!  She verbally assaulted the clerk, left the store and admitted to her husband through gritted teeth she was wrong. 

Humility is going back to the dismissive clerk (who was wrong) and saying I’m sorry. ‘Feeling’ humbled is not the same as acting with humility.

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COME ALIVE

serendestiny-doing-what-makes-you-come-aliveMy little girl really wanted to do gymnastics.  So I took her yesterday.  I used to be a gymnast.  At a young age I competed at the state level.  At that time in my life I didn’t know how to keep my passion alive.  I allowed myself to get sidetracked with running wild.

That little gymnast lives inside me.  It was the foundation that makes 10 mile hikes at 40+ possible.  I still like to jump on trampolines …. and run a bit wild.

Sitting in my daughters class awakened my little gymnast.  Her enthusiasm sparked, once again, my passion and love for this sport.  When we came home, she wanted to practice.  I started doing splits, hand stands and cartwheels. Continue reading

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The Triumph of Powerlessness

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When the ego or little self believes it has power our higher self is in for a ride.

The ride is fun at first.  Our ego gets to feel the thrill of being right.  We can puff up with pride and save face.

You know what I’m talking about. The argument over which road goes back to the main street.  What Harold really said last week.  We all have those petty fights. Sometimes the stakes are higher, but most of us waste a lot of time quibbling over small things.

“Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience” – Mark Twain

The ego needs ‘stupid’; its mastered experience. It’s a way for it to feel powerful, because it dwells in a state of illusion. It lacks the strength, resources and authority to act effectively in your life; the very definition of powerlessness.

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Humor; the great elixir.

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Humor is the great elixir.  It shifts energy.   Trauma to relaxation. Sadness to laughter. Pressure to release.  I have an analytical mind and seek to apply logic and reason to most situations.

This sort of deep contemplation leads to ‘aha’ moments frequently.  Small details are noticed.  Moments of inspiration are channelled.

However, this analytical approach can also lead to a ‘heavy’ atmosphere.  I can take the joy out of eating cotton candy and winning the lottery when I become too analytical and forget to invite along my sense of humor!,

“A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs. It’s jolted by every pebble on the road.” –Henry Ward Beecher. Continue reading

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High Ideals. Exiguous Results.

60813253-Dr-Seuss-quotes2“You have brains in your head.  You have feet in your shoes.  You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.  You’re on your own, and you know what you know.  And you are the guy who’ll decide where to go.” Dr. Seuss

We all have ideals.  The question is what do our actions reveal about us?  We may have the ideal that we should eat well, but our actions (eating a donut or four) betray us.  Worse, our exiguous efforts keep us from realizing our desires.

It’s not just our actions that betray us, but our ignorance and pride set us up as well.  We may think we know how to communicate, to manage others, to do our job, to parent well or to take the next right step in our life. However, our results contraindicate what we think we know.

“The only true wisdom is knowing you know nothing.” Socrates Continue reading

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Change. You First!

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Harvard Business and Forbes both published fairly recent articles about why we resist change.  The Forbes article starts off with one executive confused by why she’s disliked after she cut projects and laid off personnel in order to reduce expenses.  This to me is the most interesting part of the article.

We absolutely LOVE to point out the change others need to make. When we are in control and see the change ‘they’ need to make; we love change and can’t understand why anyone would resist such brilliant insight.  We doll out advice, make judgments and puff up our own EGO in our “rightness”. Continue reading

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Being In The Flow

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“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow.  Let reality be reality.  Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”  Lao Tzu

There is beauty and meaning in the flow of the river. When we resist that natural order, we resist what is. When we resist what is, we lose sight of the meaning and purpose the currents have in our life. And it hurts. Continue reading

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Climbing the Mountain

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This is a 2,500 foot climb, over 3.7 miles, culminating at 5,400 feet – the face of a sheer cliff.  Our 9, 7 and 5 year old were able to make the climb.  As they reached the top of the mountain, filled with joy over the view, I thought to myself “they were able to do this simply because we let them”.

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Our Greatest Teachers & The Power of Language

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“Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They came through you, but not from you, and though they are with you, they belong not to you.” – Khalil Gibran.

Whenever I think of my children I feel a sense of immense joy.  Children are resilient, curious, and pure. They have not been damaged by the world or my clumsy parenting.  One day it occurred to me they do not really belong to me.  They are a gift.  They have helped me stretch, and grow, as a person, in ways I didn’t even consider possible, before their arrival.  They have taught me the payoff of patience, being present, and the power of being a beginner who admitted “I do not know” but am willing to learn.

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Wonder Woman Disorder

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There was a time in her life where she was afflicted with what I call “Wonder Woman Disorder”.  Most of her decisions worked out or she forced an outcome.

She took much for granted.  There was a sense of pride in “all she had accomplished”.  She failed to register the folly in many of the decisions she made that miraculously worked out in her favor.

She had the heart of a humanitarian; which was her saving grace.  However, there was a sort of obnoxious tone to her success.  Thoughts like “this is karma, and if you had made better choices and worked hard this could be your life as well”.  This sort of “spiritual elitism”, reeked of superiority.  

There was a sense that we had super powers.  In some regards we did and still do.  In fact, we all do.  We all juggle, manage, negotiate and live with a tremendous amount of ‘stuff’ in our daily lives. Continue reading

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