Any parent will tell you being a parent is tough! The bickering for us is the toughest of all. In our family, nothing makes mommy and daddy numb and reactive more than hearing the constant bickering between siblings! We feel our patience, gentleness, and playfulness sucked out of our eyeballs.
Monthly Archives: July 2014
Ever have those situations where the ‘talk’ is required? Where part of the brain feels that things are out of balance but we keep doing what feels like the lions share of work to avoid the “dreaded talk”. The talk where I express how I feel. Then I imagine how the other person will launch into a series of justifications about their behavior. I will hear how I am wrong to feel the way I do. They will feel hurt or criticized by what I say. Even worse, they may disingenuously agree with everything I say to end the talk as quickly as possible.
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
They are everywhere. Perfect images. The happy family on the cover of a magazine. The perfect body as we stand in the grocery isle. A greeting card showing us the perfect marriage. The perfect ‘image’ to sell us the ideal of ‘happy’.
Sometimes those raw emotions are my favorite to experience. They release the dam of thoughts and feelings that have unknowingly bottled up in me. Have you ever had the feeling you have gone kind of numb? Like nothing in life really moves you? Then someone, an event, or a movie, may break through that numbness and we can experience a great release.
“When you really listen to another person from their point of view, and reflect back to them that understanding, it’s like giving them emotional oxygen.“- Stephen Covey
I am EGO. I create the illusion of health issues, jobs we don’t like, relationships that don’t work out, selfish and mean spirited people, burdensome taxes, heavy childhoods, unexpected tragedy and a shallow society focused on how powerful, how rich and how young it can project and be! Then we wonder why we are stressed, disconnected, discontent and struggle to carve out a little slice of joy for ourselves. Ego wants it all….now! We create and work for ego-driven companies that one friend so eloquently put “makes their profit off the backs of a disposable work force”.