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Wisdom of Jack Sparrow

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Wisdom can come from any source we choose to accept. The willingness to see wisdom all around is the very definition of wisdom.
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When Ambition Trumps Love.

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Psychologist Tim Kasser, author of The High Price of Materialism, concluded the pursuit of materialistic values (money, possessions, and social status) leads to lower well-being and more distress in individuals.

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Ego Expectations

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The higher the expectations, the lower the serenity level. When the ego thinks they should – I should – it should – be this way….

All the shoulding turns into a negative pile of steamy shit – good for attracting more negative shit – and buzzing egos full of shit – all leaving the shitty pile – with shit to spread around.

Let go of those shoulds in life – see what is – a beautiful garden comes into focus – all varieties of beauty are attracted to this place – joy blossoms and spreads to others.

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10 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re An iNtuitive

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The MBTI inventory classifies inventory classifies iNtuitive types as those who place more interest (and often more value) in theories, abstractions and the exploration of possibilities than they do in the concrete realities of the world around them. iNtuitive-dominant personality types (mainly ENFPs, ENTPs, INTJs and INFJs) are almost always more interested in what isn’t being said or considered than what is.

But since we live in a sensor-dominant world, intuitive behavior tends to stick out like a sore thumb. Almost every iNtuitive personality will be able to recall many experiences in which their loved ones were thoroughly confused by their reasoning or behavior. Here are ten behaviors people often don’t understand are associated with being an iNtuitive personality.

1. Spurring debates.

iNtuitives don’t fully understand an issue until they’ve considered it from every possible angle. These types aren’t debating because they want to be difficult or impolite – they’re debating because they need to test the validity of the topic by arguing it from every side. They want to see if any holes arise in their reasoning as they go, and some of their best learning takes place through the process of debate.

2. Obsessively planning for the future.

iNtuitives live almost exclusively in the future – they love considering which options may arise for them, which goals they ought to set for themselves, what their lives may look like in twenty or thirty years, etc.
Of course, it’s impossible to plan every detail of one’s life… so the plan is subject to getting readjusted. For extroverted iNtuitives (xNFPs and xNTPs), the readjusting happens almost daily. For introverted intuitives (xNFJs and xNTJs), readjusting happens as needed – but the need tends to arise regularly.

3. Viewing the rules as suggestions.

It’s not that iNtuitives are rebellious for the sake of it – it’s just that they analyze why a rule exists before deciding whether or not to follow it. These types despise arbitrary action, so if they perceive a rule to be outdated or ineffective, they have no problem casting it aside and doing things their way instead.

4. Over-analyzing everything.

For the iNtuitive, it isn’t enough to understand how a given issue applies to them – they have to also understand the global implications of the issue, or the underlying theory that ties is all together. iNtuitives want to know the intangible explanation for every tangible problem, and it can drive those around them a little bonkers.

5. Placing little trust in authority.

iNtuitives types trust competence over qualification, and they want to make their own judgments about how competent they find others to be. iNtuitives are highly aware of the human tendency to favor convenience and prestige above analysis, and they aren’t quick to trust any established system simply because it’s been in place for a long time.

6. Relentlessly seeking variety.

iNtuitive personalities are naturally drawn to the abnormal, the uncouth and the unconventional. These types spend their entire lives attempting to piece together a comprehensive worldview, which means that they seek to understand as many different oddities as possible. Whether they’re seeking novelty in their studies, their lifestyles or both, these types are always on the hunt for new lenses through which they can view the world.

7. Developing obscure interests.

Since what they don’t know is almost always more interesting to the iNtuitive personality than what they do know, these types are likely to take an interest in niche topics or theories. Many iNtuitives enjoy exploring conspiracy theories or other such ‘unfounded’ methods of reasoning, as they enjoy the ‘mental gymnastics’ aspect of linking seemingly unrelated things together (even though they often don’t believe the actual theories themselves at the end of the day).

8. Socializing selectively.

Extroverted iNtuitives (mainly ENFPs and ENTPs) are considered the most introverted of the extroverted types. Introverted iNtuitives (mainly INFJs and INTJs) may be more traditionally introverted in nature, but put any of these types around in a room together and the conversation is likely to flow on for hours (if not days, if not endlessly)!

iNtuitive-dominant types are often quickly exhausted by engaging with their physical environment, but they are endlessly energized by quality conversation. These types tend to consider themselves to be ‘selectively social’ – they’d rather be alone than around people they don’t connect with, but put them around other iNtuitive types and their social side suddenly emerges with fervor.

9. Playing devil’s advocate.

If there’s a sure-fire way to get under an iNtuitive’s skin, it’s to insist that basically any issue is black or white. These types are quick to assume the role of devil’s advocate in any situation where they feel as though the opposing party is forming an opinion without considering the alternative point of view. These types are prone to vehemently arguing points they don’t even agree with, just to prove that an issue is more complex than those around them are assuming it to be.

10. Pursing an unconventional life course.

iNtuitives are naturally drawn to the strange, the provocative and the unconventional. They may be more prone than sensing types to have an entrepreneurial streak, to engage in non-traditional relationship structures or to experiment with lifestyle choices that are outside the societal norm.

Because these types take a ‘why not’ approach to their lives (or in the case of introverted iNtuitives, their research and learning), they often find themselves unintentionally rebelling from the rest of society. It’s not that they want to do everything differently – it’s just that an iNtuitive’s lifestyle tends to reflect their mindset – and the mind of an iNtuitive is a very strange territory indeed.

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One Step….

 

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We’ve all heard this at some point and in some version.  So what is the action plan?  How can we apply this to our daily life?

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Being.

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So many of us suffer and do so silently.  We have depression, anxiety, health issues and we keep them all to ourselves.

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Anxiety; Past Thought Patterns.

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This is still me!  Can you relate?  I used to wake up with chest pains, because as soon as my eyes opened, a thread of fears, issues, and anxieties, ran through my mind.  I ground my teeth so hard in my sleep I cracked my molar.  I was stressed out.  The stress become so intense, I ended up in the hospital with a life threatening illness.

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Remember You? It’s Them Now!

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A. We are having less sex (hahahahahaha) or
 
B. Cheap and easy access to birth control has helped lower unplanned/unwanted pregnancies.
 
As a society, we spend much energy on the morality of abortion and rights to birth control.
 
We seem to talk loud and act little on solutions to the fundamental question:
 
How can we care for all the neglected and abused children (globally if you choose) or what about just in our own zip code?
 
Right now there may not be enough of “us” to take care all of “them” and one might stop to consider why that is?
 
Are we busy attempting to impose judgment rather than acknowledge the problem and look for solutions?
 
How do we channel our resources to take an active and productive role in meaningful change?
 
These neglected children, have children, and we pay for our lack of attention and support tenfold…. a million fold – do we even know?
 
Look around you right now. Do you like what you see? Then go drive in some areas that frighten you and ask yourself how is “that kid” being treated and how is “that kid” right there in your zip code going to make it?
 
As a young teen I was appalled at how myself and other minors were treated by society.
 
As a child, and a girl, I was constantly wary of a smile – was it kind or would it lead to yet another incident of sexual harassment. Nice people seemed to be their target.
 
His name was Al Feinstein. The local 40ish predator who had weed, porn, smokes and whatever you wanted. He understood you.
 
My best friend in 7th grade was an Indian boy who was targeted even more than I. Many boys were sexually assaulted and that was talked about even less.
 
The two adopted children I played with who were beaten and eventually the sister was beaten to death.
 
Going to a school closed by race riots, gun shootings, 13 year old pregnancies being hidden (often the result of rape or incest) and then living in the Middle East created a diverse world view.
 
Americas brand of oppression is quite vile and insidious because its subterfuge and “oh she’s so pretty” hidden under the flimsy veil of materialism and disguised by pleasant window dressing.
 
We see the pretty window and are lulled into the false belief “all is well here”. We normalize behavior with our sense of superiority. Might is right after all!
 
Kids are abused and starving – here, there…. everywhere. In America, 1 in 3 kids born after 2000 will develop diabetes and over half of those are minorities.
 
 
Many of us understand why. It’s the same greed and disregard in the food industry that has caused it. Where does food not fit for McDonalds go? Your kids public school. Using the same mentality that glamorized smoking and normalized it’s use.
 
My daughter practices great tolerance because she sees the disparity between her friends and other kids. They have absentee or abusive parents and some in 6th grade are already showing signs of what they’ve been exposed to and where they will most likely end up.
 
A few years ago a child was using trash bags for undergarments in another school. Do we think this child has the same access?
 
So what’s my point? My writing is a way for me to sort out my own internal dialogue. What it’s reminding me to do is tune into my own children. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in and distracted by “important adult business”.
 
It’s also a reminder to me that most of my volunteerism, intention and focus has been given to the children – all children in my sphere of influence. We all have our calling and I hope more are called to stop the cycles that have led us to exactly where we are right now!
 
The other point is we all struggle. Instead of judging each other – we could all use some help and some tolerance. When I’m hurting I do random acts of kindness. I’ve cleaned and organized more homes for moms and Taken in so many kids; at times we are the village.
 
And they do the same for me; especially when I’m struggling with my health. We are imperfect. We love and support one another even though we hold different beliefs.
 
One thing my tribe has in common – we are all independent thinkers.
 
For those of us dedicated to this cause, we need a lot more support. Some of these kids are so damaged they can destroy healthy families – so they are passed around. What is the fate of their children?
 
We can point fingers and pass judgment on others choices or we can focus that energy living in the solution and taking real and meaningful action to help!
 
#WeAreSpreadThin #SupportEachother #FindTheCommonGround
 

 

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The Juggle – Guilt – Strength

 

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How to juggle it all – work out – quality time with family – time to be a present partner – time for personal growth – time to volunteer – time to just play – time for personal development – time for sleep!

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